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I'm sure when you hear the word "hermit", the typical definition pops into your head. What is the definition of Hermit you ask? Well, let me tell you!
Hermit: any person living in seclusion; recluse.
By nature, I am a hermit. If I could stay in my house, with my family, I would be just fine. But truth is, we are required to get out in the world. Be it for family activities, grocery shopping, church, etc, etc. There was a time in my life that those little outdoor chores were excruciating. I hated it with every last ounce of myself. But I went.
Years and years of therapy didn't really help me. I give the most credit to my faith in God but I also give credit to myself. I have examined my life and thank God, I have a husband who loves and supports me through my little moments of being unsocial. When I really took a look at who I am, I realized that even though I have a super tough shell (it seems) on the outside, I am actually a very sensitive person. I am empathetic. If your hurting and I care about you, I hurt. Submerge me in a group of people of chaotic feelings and I crash and burn pretty quick.
So, you ask, what is my advice? If you have the pleasure of knowing a hermit, give them grace. Just because you invite them over to your house one hundred times and they decline, keep inviting them. Don't take it personally. Hermits love their people. Deeply. Or at least this hermit does. *smiles* I have a hand full of people I consider friends. People that have loved me through thick and thin. And if you were to ask them if I make a good friend, they may say yes or they may say no. *shrugs* I try the very best I can and thankfully most of them understand.
Hermits can pretend to be the most outgoing person you know! Don't let them fool you! I get caught up in things that I regret hours later. I have a very narrow allowance of time that I donate to certain things. Want an example? Next year I'm teaching two classes at our local homeschool coop. I have many, many, many times questioned why in the world did I sign up for that!? Truth is, the two things I'll be teaching, I love. But I also know that by teaching those two classes, I get two class periods to recharge my batteries.
Recharging my batteries means sitting in my van, alone. I love my people, but I get drained quickly. Don't take offense if your hermit friend smiles and rolls up her window if you see her sitting alone in her car. Chances are, she wishes she could talk to you too but needs a few to breath. Love her enough to give her that time and then smile when she comes back around.
Love the person that struggles with groups of people. Love the person that struggles with being around one person! I promise, they love you more than you'll ever know.
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